Hey there friend,
When I first started youth ministry I thought I was the best thing that entered the ministry since Doug Fields. Even then I thought I knew more about ministry than he did. I thought that since I was having all of these programs, baptisms, visitors and I thought I was something special. The truth of the matter is that me, you and I are always replaceable. Every minister is an interim minster and the quicker we realize that the better we prepare our youth ministries for the future.
“One day someone else will be doing what you are doing. Whether you have an exit strategy or not, ultimately, you will exit” (Andy Stanley, 7 Practices of Effective Ministry)
Listen to what Mark DeVries says in Sustainable Youth Ministry:
“Think about the role of interims: they proactively prepare the way for a future that does not include them. Interims are midwives, not mothers. Interims help a congregation recognize, celebrate and stand guard over its core, momentum-building traditions. Good youth ministers know that to build their minstries around themselves and their relationships with students is to fail in their calling” (92-93).
It’s take me years to figure this out friend and let me tell you something, it is liberating. The church, the youth ministry can either thrive with me or thrive without me. Jesus is bigger than me, my personality, my gifts and my presence. Have you ever thought that maybe the church you are working for might benefit from someone else being in your position? If you can’t imagine that then you might need to reconsider your calling. Ministry is not about selfishness, it’s about submission. Not recognition, but relinquishment.
So free yourself and thank God that he has placed you exactly where you need to be and know that wherever you are at or wherever you leave, God is bigger and better than you. That’s a good thing.