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Yesterday I had the opportunity to speak at Goodpasture Christian School during their chapel time. I have probably spoken there 20 times since I have been at Main Street. I have also had the pleasure of speaking at numerous FCA events all over the county. It is a daunting task to speak in front of 600-700 junior/senior high kids at 9am and often I wonder if they got anything out of the message. So in your days as a youth minister you will probably be asked to speak in front of teenagers at their school for a religious event and so I want to give you some tips I have learned (you probably know these…I am a slow learner) speaking at different events.

#1 – Gather all of the facts.

How long do you need to speak? What are some things you cannot say? Is there any specific message you want me to mention? Who is the target audience? Who is in the audience (denominations)? What does the facilities look like? Will there be any time for discussion? What kind of sound equipment do they have available? Gather the facts.

#2 – Be Realistic

I had delusions that I would alter the course of their life with one, finely-crafted message and that they would come up to me in droves crying, telling me how much my message meant to them. I am an idiot. Teenagers will text during the message, will think about other things, will be confused or just not care. Our job is to simply bring good news and let the message fall on whomever God wills, however God wills.

#3 – Keep it simple

I know you want to share the Greek syntax with them but they do not care about your 2 years of Greek graduate school and $20k in debt from that Greek (I digress). They need a simple message with a simple point. I recommend two books to help you in that endeavor: Andy Stanley’s Communicating for a Change and Doug Fields and Duffy Robbins’ Speaking to Teenagers.

#4 – Make it fun

I can hear your snarky response: “Dude…” wait a minute you would probably start, “Brother, you are watering down the gospel message by entertaining kids!” I guess you would not like the way Jesus communicated with parable. He probably watered down his own message right? Sheesh. Make it fun. Don’t be inappropriate but make it fun. I once brought tuna, sardines, spoiled milk, jalapenos, brussle spouts and mixed them all in one bowl. I then brought a $20 bill and said, “Who wants it?” Everyone raised their hands and then I put it in the bowl and said, “Who wants it now?” That kid came up and put his hand in the bowl, got the $20 and everyone laughed. I followed up talking about how everyone has value no matter how dirty things in their life get. Make it fun, make a point.

#5 – Tie things in to the gospel message whenever and wherever you can

You have to be sneaky with this in certain contexts but people need to hear the message of salvation in Christ alone, through faith alone by grace alone. Some contexts won’t let you do this but a simple, “God redeemed you on the cross” can get the message through.

What are some other things you have learned?


Preached this sermon yesterday at Main Street and it was well received.

God’s Kaleidoscope

(Romans 1:16; 1 Cor. 15:9-10)

            “I think every church should be a church irreligious people love to attend. Why? Because the church is the local expression of the presence of Jesus. We are his body. And since people who were nothing like Jesus liked Jesus, people who are nothing like Jesus should like us as well.”[1] I just read that quote on Friday and it is amazing how well this fit into the sermon idea that I wanted to talk about with you this morning. A few weeks ago I shared a blog post chronicling my usage of marijuana in middle and high school and I received many warm comments but most of them had to do with me having courage to share that information. In that blog post I wrote:

I am not sure why I am telling all of you this now as many of you are finding this out for the first time. I guess because I have seen a few of my own youth struggle and have heard of so many others that I feel it is probably time to share my story.[2]

Some of you in this audience knew of my past and some of you did not. Perhaps some of you are thinking to yourself, “What is this guy talking about?” The blog post simply told part of my story where I struggled with drugs and alcohol in my middle and high-school days. The struggle could have been worse but it did not have to happen. I tell you all of this to ask this question:

Why did people say that I had courage to admit that I used drugs?

Why does that take courage?

I read the New Testament and people who were responsible for the death of Jesus, the Savior came to Peter asking for repentance and desiring baptism. Smoking weed is nothing compared to killing the savior.

It takes courage to admit things like my broken past not because there is a loss of people in the church who have similar pasts but there are people in this church and every other church who are either afraid of what people might think (i.e, “they will judge me”) or, even worse, they do not want to address those demons of the past. It also takes courage to admit that those types of things because most of time many people in this auditorium spend 45 minutes to an hour pretending to be someone who they are not. This is why so many people who are unchurched do not want to attend a church because they feel like they have to have everything in order before they can be a part of the church. That’s not the way the New Testament church operated.

What I am going to do this morning is going to take some courage on your part. I am going to ask a bunch of questions and all I ask of you to do is to be honest and raise your hands.[3] If you are visiting with us feel free not to participate but if you are a member of this church I ask all of you to participate. I ask you to trust me in what I am about to do and understand that I am making a point with all of this. Finally, this goes without saying, those who raise their hands are free from judgment on your part. There is only one judge and you are not he. This should make good lunch discussions…

So here we go…

We’ll start easy…

  • How many of you come from a Christian home where you church was talked about all the time and you absolutely loved going to services, participating in VBS, youth the whole nine yards? How many of that was you raise your hand?
  • How many of you did not grow up in a Christian home as Christ was never talked about or if he was it was only around Christmas time? How many of that was you raise your hand?
  • How many of you grew up attending church but then hated going to church because mom and dad forced it on you so you left when you got old enough and then played a little, visited other churches but eventually came back? How many of that was you raise your hand?
  • How many of you came from some other denomination before you landed here at Main Street?
  • How many of you became a believer after your 20th birthday? 30th? 40th? 50th? Any higher?
  • How many of you, your parents are still happily married?
  • How many of you are from homes where your parents were divorced either early on or at some point since you left the house?
  • How many of you, your parents are married, but not necessarily happily?
  • How many of you have experienced divorce?
  • How many of you have a master’s level education or above?
  • How many of you did not graduate high school but have a GED or some sort of equivalent?
  • Any democrats in here?
  • How many of you were born in the north above the Mason-Dixon line?
  • How many of you were born in another country?

Again this is a safe environment where you will not be judged….

  • How many of you have a past in addiction whether it is alcohol, drugs or pornography?
  • Last one, how many of you have experienced some sort of abuse (physical, sexual or mental) in your background.

Let’s take a deep breath. There is this lie from the handiwork of Satan himself that says God only saves certain people. As if God loves republicans more than he does democrats. As if God loves people who have been to church their whole lives versus those who just made it. Here is the gist of this sermon, the big point…

“God, by his grace and mercy, wants all to be saved and the gospel is for everybody.”

Let that marinate on your heart rate now. Let that sit in your stubborn chambers where the “ideal Christian” image sits. God saves the person who cusses like a sailor and get’s drunk all night long and God saves the person whose worst words are “silly goose” and who feels guilty drinking a Pepsi. You know what I mean? God saves all of us and we should be courageously unashamed of that fact.

Some of you are walking around saying, “I never tried drugs and I never have touched alcohol and I have gone to church services my whole life and feel like my testimony to God is insignificant.” Hogwash! Praise God that he saw it fit to save you from that situation and now uses your story to teach all families that God-fearing people can raise another generation of God-fearing people. Some of you are walking around saying, “If church people only knew of all the things I have done they would not want me into their church.” First off, it’s not their church it’s Jesus Christ’s church. Secondly, if they really knew about all the things you have done and if they had an ounce of authenticity in them after hearing about the things you have done they would not say, “How horrible you are,” they would say, “How great is our God!”

Don’t you think it’s time church that we become a little more authentic and a little more genuine? I am not saying we have to unload every personal detail every time we come to services but I can honestly say that many of you I know but few of you I know on a deep, personal level. The apostle Paul was very upfront about who he was and how God saved him from the wretched person that he was. There are a ton of verses I could share (especially in Acts where he recounts his conversion story a couple of times) but I felt like this one sums it all up…

For I am the least of the apostles, unworthy to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God. But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain. On the contrary, I worked harder than any of them, though it was not I, but the grace of God that is with me. (1 Cor. 15:9-10)

In context Paul is talking about the resurrection of Jesus Christ and how Jesus appeared to him who was the least of the apostles. He calls himself one who was “untimely born.” Paul is forever having to defend his apostleship to people who think he is a nobody. Imagine the criticism he got:

“This guy is not one of us, he was a persecutor of the church. How dare he think he can tell us how to run this church?”

“He was not an apostle as he barely even saw the Lord Jesus.”

Yet, Paul understood that and in the wake of his past he came to the conclusion that the suffering, the persecution and the pain he causes to the church he could do nothing about right now. He said, “by the grace of God I am what I am.”

I think churches are starving for people like Paul who just puts all of his cards on the table and lets whatever falls to fall. He does not say what he did gives people license to do bad things but he allows other people to see how God can save people from horrible circumstances.


So there is this myth that there is this certain type of person God saves. It does not exist. He saved a rich tax collector by the name of Zacchaeus and he saved the woman caught in adultery, in the very act. How rough would that one be if a woman caught in adultery interrupted our services begging to be saved at the very instant? We would probably escort her out so we would not disrupt the order of worship. God saves all kinds of people. If we want this church to grow we need to be more authentic. We need to be the church that does not seek other church-going people but we need to be the church that seeks the people nobody wants… the unchurched. There are plenty of churches in this county who brag about their numbers when all they are doing is swelling from other churches. We need to be that church where unchurched people look at and say, “I want to be a part of that.”

How do we do that? We started today… honesty, integrity and openness. I titled this sermon God’s Kaleidoscope. One definition for kaleidoscope on was, “any complex pattern of frequently changing shapes and colors.” Sounds a little bit about what church is supposed to be. As the leaves change in the fall I am reminded about how different people from church are. We come from every background imaginable and the one common theme is that we are all trying to give God his glory and reach others to do the same. We all are spared by the grace and mercy of Jesus Christ so that we do not live lives in the “used to be” or “what could be” but we live in the already.

So we have all been a bit honest. This should help us reach others. This should help us start. We do not have to have this mask put on. “Fake it until you make it” is a cliché for people who don’t know what they are talking about. Let’s stop faking. Let’s stop living in our empty cisterns of despair. Let’s live in the grace and forgiveness of Jesus Christ. I am not scared any more are you? Let’s do this church! My name is Robbie Mackenzie. I used to do drugs, I used to drink heavily, I was not a virgin when I got married, I treated God like a genie in a bottle and God saved me from all of that. HIS GRACE REACHES EVEN ME….

[1] Andy Stanley, Deep and Wide: Creating Churches Unchurched People Love to Attend (Kindle Locations 57-59). Zondervan. Kindle Edition.

[3] The idea from this came from Matt Chandler’s masterful sermon entitled, “City on a Hill – Part 1: A New People” preached at The Village Church in Flower Mound, TX on September 2nd, 2012. Some of the questions are directly from his sermon.

Post-Sermon Cornering

April 16, 2012 — 6 Comments

“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Prov. 12:18).

Every preacher has experienced this and what I am writing about this morning is not a new concept. After the sermon is over is a time when people like to tell you how much they appreciated the sermon (every preacher knows not to listen to this for he knows that it is about Jesus anyways) and sometimes how much they did not appreciate the sermon. Of course, we preachers tend to forget the compliments but only remember the criticism but I think that is part of human nature. I appreciate people who have questions though and want to talk more after a sermon about something that was said. Or maybe they did not hear something the way I intended and they need furthur clarification. Or maybe I said something and I was just wrong about it. Often I need to man-up and admit it. It was also written:

“If you turn at my reproof, behold, I will pour out my spirit to you; I will make my words known to you” (Prov. 1:23).

Yet, what bothers me more than anything is the nitpicking, holier-than-thou, questions that seem to be Pharasaical in nature rather than seeking truth. I could give you endless examples of times where I needed to be corrected or something needed to be said to me and I took it because it was God-sent. But the nit-picky stuff is unacceptable and my sarcasm shines in these moments.

“You know you said ‘ugh’ like 27 times in your sermon?” My response, “Sorry, I didn’t realize I was in a Toastmasters competition. I will work on that!”

“Robbie, you didn’t wear a tie this past Sunday and we are supposed to ‘wear our best’ when we worship on Sunday morning.” My response, “Next Sunday I will wear what Jesus wore and come in a full tunic, robe, sandals and belt. If it was good enough for Jesus then it is good enough for us.”

“Robbie, you didn’t say ‘in Jesus’ name’ before you said ‘Amen’ when you closed in prayer.” “You’re right…what you think Jesus said when he prayed to His father? In My name I pray, Amen!”

You see, the saracasm is not helpful either. But the minutia is what really bothers me not the genuine search for answers to tough questions. Perry Noble, Pastor of Newspring Church in South Carolina, said this in a sermon entitled “How to change the course of my life in an instant,”:

“There’s questions of clarification and there’s questions of condemnation. I, and this staff, always have time for questions of clarification. We will not engage in questions of condemnation.”

I can feel fine to disagree with people and at the end of the day worship with them but when people come to condemn the message I preached without being open to a different opinion then I will not engage in those questions. If they are open and we disagree then that is clarification but if they disagree and condemn me for my “liberal, unbiblical, uneducated, unsound, un__________ (you fill in the blank)” opinion then I do not have time for this.

Some people enjoy post-sermon arguing but I detest it and will not put up with it unless it is clarification. I enjoy those.

What about you? What do you think? How do you handle those?

Below is the lesson I taught at Heritage Christian University’s Spiritual Enrichment Seminar. Click to the right (Becoming a Professional- Managing Yourself and Your Ministry) to download the pdf file of the lesson.

Becoming a Professional: How to Manage Yourself and Your Ministry
By Robbie Mackenzie


Scenario #1:  Greg has been a youth minister for only a couple months and the elders are starting to grow concerned.  He rarely shows up to the office, which is not a huge deal, but the students say they have not seen him outside of regular services.  Greg is a competent bible student and the kids naturally gravitate towards him but he just does not show up.  The elders sat down to talk with Greg and he was upset stating that youth ministry is different than a corporate job and he should not be required to have office hours because ministry is done “in the trenches.”  The elders disagree and the youth minister and the elders argue over this for the next month.  It seems that the writing is on the wall and the youth minister is going to get terminated.

Scenario #2:  Todd has been a youth minister for well over five years at the same church in the great state of Tennessee.  Todd will spend, on average, about 40 hours in the office not to mention he visits the kids outside the office, answers all of their “important” texts, emails, Facebook messages and photo comments and he even finds the time to counsel some of them during their many crises.  On top of that Todd keeps up a blog and even contributes to other blogs and even has his own podcast where he interviews teens, parents and youth ministers about their struggles.  On average, Todd works 70-80 a week.  His congregation loves him and praises him for his work ethic.

My question to you right now is which youth minister is doing ministry incorrectly? The answer, in my opinion, is both of them.  Both seem to not have their schedules under control and both lack the self-discipline needed to do youth ministry.  One works too much probably neglecting his family and his own spiritual well being while the other seems to be neglecting just about everything.

My assignment for you this afternoon is to talk about youth ministry as a profession or a job.  While ministry differs in a lot of ways from the corporate world it is still a paid position only with certain requirements and often some hidden expectations.
Paul was right when he said, “As for you, always be sober-minded, endure suffering, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry” (2 Tim. 4:5).  In other places Paul is concerned that Timothy pursue a life of godliness (1 Tim. 4:7-8; 6:3-6, 11) and even goes so far as to say that in the last days there will be some who will have the appearance of godliness but will deny its power (2 Tim. 3:5).   Peter Scazzero was dead-on in his book Emotionally Healthy Churches when he said, “The overall health of any church or ministry depends primarily on the emotional and spiritual health of its leadership.”[1] When I hear of youth ministers who will not show up for work, will not report to the elders or who will not leave work I think the problem is not the fact that he is not showing up for work or that he is working too much.  The problem is that the youth minister has not handled himself emotionally to do the work he feels called to do.

Mark DeVries has a great line in his book that I want to build-off of when it comes to being a professional in youth ministry.  He says, “The greatest threat to youth worker longevity is not our lack of skills or creativity, but our inability to manage the competing, confusing, often chaotic demands on our time.  Sustainable youth ministers recognize one fact to be true: we’ll never get it all done.  Show me a youth director whose job feels manageable, and there’s a good possibility he or she simply doesn’t understand the job.”[2]I read a book by Geoff Surratt called 10 Stupid Things Keep Churches Growing that really blessed me.  In like fashion I want to share with you 10 Stupid Things that Keep Youth Ministers From Longevity.

#10 – Embrace Laziness
Proverbs 10:4-5 say, A slack hand causes poverty,
but the hand of the diligent makes rich.
 He who gathers in summer is a prudent son,
   but he who sleeps in harvest is a son who brings shame.” I was working in a hay field with one of my youth group students and a few other high-schoolers.  He and his older brother owned a business where they sold hay and I offered my services free to help them out.  We were to pick up hay-bales and stack them on the truck.  It was tiring work and it was in the hottest part of the summer.  One guy just did not cut it.   He was physically able to do the work but there was no initiative in him to pick these bales.  The problem soon escalated because the rest of us had to pick up (literally) his slack.
Laziness ruins a youth ministry and stymies potential growth.  Paul had to deal with laziness (idleness) with the Thessalonian church because they were anticipating the Lord’s return so they thought, “Why should we do anything if Christ is about to return?”  Paul’s response is poignant: “If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat” (2 Thess. 3:10).   For Paul the risk of being lazy and idle could jeopardize the influence of the church.  He told the Thessalonians the first time to: “to aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you, so that you may walk properly before outsiders and be dependent on no one” (1 Thess. 4:11-12).  We are given a lot of freedom as youth ministers and with a lot of freedom comes a lot of responsibility.  We need youth ministers to work and labor for the cause of Christ helping teenagers find Christ and to grow in him.

#9 – Ignore Opportunities for Increased Learning
Do you want to manage yourself and your ministry?  Then learn how to do it.  For some that means taking graduate courses furthering their education.  For others it means attending youth ministry seminars where you get hands-on training from youth ministry experts.  And for a lot of us it means sitting down for a cup of coffee with someone we respect who is at a place in life we want to be. Andy Stanley said, “Great leaders are great learners.”[3] I love to see aged ministers who still break out the legal pad and take notes during a sermon because they might learn something.  God uses circumstances of this world as his canvas for learning and we would do well to pay attention to his painting.

Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance” (Prov. 1:5).                              

“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, 
but a wise man listens to advice” (Prov. 12:15).                                           

“Without counsel plans fail, 
but with many advisers they succeed” (Prov. 15:22).                                            

“Listen to advice and accept instruction, 
that you may gain wisdom in the future” (Prov. 19:20).

 #8 – Be Selfish
Paul gave us an obligatory command, Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Phil. 2:3-4).  You would think that ministry is an atmosphere where selfishness would not prevail but there a lot of times we are not professional with ourselves and with our ministry because we are selfish.  We want things done a certain way and if anyone has a differing opinion than they are cast away immediately. Selfishness has no place in our ministries and the quicker we realize that the better off our ministries will be.  Besides, the work of God in our churches is something he does not us.  Now he chooses to use us as his instruments but it is not about us at all.

#7 – Develop a Victim-Mentality
How many times have you said or at least heard something said that sounded like this?:

  • “I would love to take our youth ministry to the next level but my elders won’t let me…”
  • “My preacher is against me and never backs me up.”
  • “The parents are trying to sabotage me.”
  • “The students could care less about youth group stuff.”
  • “If moms and dads cared more about church than they did sports our ministry would be incredible.”
  • “My elders never meet with me one and one to pray with me.”

Mark DeVries writes, “…this sort of thinking keeps youth workers in a victim state, trapped in emotional ruts.  I’m not talking about denying that problems exist.  I’m talking about facing those problems with brutal honesty, not just the problems ‘out there,’ but more importantly our own toxic tendency to become enmeshed him, defensive about or overwhelmed by those problems.”[4]Problems are going to arise in our ministries and there is nothing we can do to be problem-free.  However, we are not victims of these problems but sent to help solve them.

#6 – Make Ministry Your Idol
An idol is simply defined as anything that takes the place only Christ deserves.
Tim Keller writes, “What is an idol?  It is anything more important to you than God, anything that absorbs your heart and imagination more than God, anything you seek to give you what only God can give.  A counterfeit god is anything so central and essential to your life, that should you lose it, your life would feel hardly worth living.”[5]  Using that terminology it is easy for one to see how ministry could be seen as an idol.  It is not that ministry is good to have as a passion or even a vocation but ministry is not the end of all.  Ministry is something God allows us to do as we are able.  When we place ministry above God and do not use him to guide our ways but instead do things on our own I believe we are guilty of religious idolatry.

#5 – Don’t Take Care of Yourself Emotionally
DeVries writes, “One of the most important lessons I had to learn as a youth pastor was that one of the greatest gifts I can bring to my ministry is myself.  If I sacrifice my joy in Christ or my passion for the gospel on the altar of ‘successful ministry,’ everybody loses.”[6]  Often this means doing some serious work like understanding your family-systems history like you are the scapegoat, the hero, the clown and the lost child.  All of those are incredibly important for your ministry. I remember a time at camp where I lost it.  I was emotionally high-strung anyways because I had to get things ready for camp and it had been a stressful three months leading to camp.  One of my youth parents thought it would be funny if one of my students pushed me into the pool with all of my clothes on.  He pushed me in and everyone was laughing—everyone except me.  I screamed at this kid and stormed off to the cabins acting like a two year-old.  At that point I knew I had to do a lot of work emotionally.

Youth Ministries do not need an anxious presence among the people because anxiety spreads like a plague.  Youth ministries need strong people to guide the storm and weather the difficult circumstances. In his monumental work Good to Great Jim Collins outlines different qualities of what he calls Level-5 leaders.  These leaders were able to lead the companies to the next level by doing different things.  One of those things was called “confront the brutal facts.”  He says, “This is a very important lesson.  You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”[7]  If your youth ministry is in shambles and going nowhere that might be the best time to look no further than the mirror.

DeVries outlines what he calls “The Anatomy of Emotional Health in Ministry”:

  • Do I have a life outside of ministry?
  • Do I have an emotionally healthy schedule?
  • How much do I know about what I don’t know?
  • Do I rule my tongue or does it rule me?
  • Whom do I take more seriously—God or myself?
  • What am I fighting about?
  • What do I do after I fail?
  • Is no a four-letter word to me?
  • Am I burning out or just burning?[8]

#4 – Neglect a Plan for Your Ministry
Andy Stanley writes, “Everybody ends up somewhere in life.  A few people end up somewhere on purpose.  Those are the ones with vision.”[9]  A youth minister friend asked me to give him some ideas because he was struggling at finding out what to do when he got to the office.  He said, “I just don’t know what to do.”  He planned all of the long-term activities but struggled with the short-term. Do you have goals for your ministry?  I am not just talking about long-term goals like, “Get students to love Jesus.”  That goes without saying.  I mean do you have specific long-term and short-term goals.  Ministry experts agree that in order to be effective in youth ministry you must have specific discipleship goals for every student in your group.  Not only every student but also every teacher, parent and volunteer who is associated with the youth group. That means we have to meet and meet often.

#3 – Don’t Involve a Team of People in Your Ministry
“But he [Rehoboam] abandoned the counsel that the old men gave him and took counsel with the young men who had grown up with him and stood before him” (1 Kings 12:8). I hesitated putting this one so high on our list but the most effective way for me to manage my ministry and myself is to make sure I enlist a host of teams and then become a team player.

  • Teams involving your students.
  • Teams involving your parents.
  • Teams involving your staff.
  • Teams involving your elders.

When I first started working at Main Street in 2004 the elders asked me to sign-in when I arrived and sign-out when I left so they could keep track of my hours.  I detested that and started voicing my opposition to anyone who would listen….anyone but the elders of course.  I found out that they did this because people who would not show up to the office had burned them and they were trying to be more accountable.  I was in the wrong.  So I filled out a time sheet for the better part of a year until one of the elders came up to me and said, “Don’t worry about filling this out anymore Robbie, we can tell that you work hard.” God created us to be in a community together and we are never to be alone.  Look at all of the passages in Paul’s epistles that have the phrase “one-another” in them. If we fail to involve a team then we will fail in our ministries.

#2 – Neglect your families. 
Adam McLane (former Youth Specialties Tech guy) shared something on his blog that slapped me right in the face: ‘The reason I hate church is that you pay attention to everyone else there but us.’ ~ Megan, age 7.  Those words rattled my soul. I’d rather have gotten cold-cocked by Mike Tyson in a bar fight than heard those words. That’s when I knew that things had to drastically change in how both how I related to my family and serving the church.  Every time I volunteered somewhere or went to a meeting it lead to fights with the kids. ‘You don’t love us you only love stuff at church!’  Their anger lead to my tears.”[10]  Not every youth minister is married so for those of you who are not just store this in the back of your mind until you do and wait for the next point I make. If some of you were honest with me right now I bet that some of your marriages are struggling right now.  Some of you have spent hours and hours preparing for sermons, bible classes retreats and the coolest PowerPoint slide yet have not sat down with your wife and children and read the Bible.
Something is wrong with that picture.  If you gain the whole youth but lose your family then you have done nothing.  There is one tool I have used that has blessed my ministry for the past four years.  You want to know what that tool is?  It is the word “no”.  At first I started feeling guilty at saying no but now I say it all the time.  One of the youth group students wanted me to speak at a football team chapel this past Thursday afternoon.  Four years ago I would have jumped on the opportunity but I knew I had to leave Friday to be here and time away from my family is precious so I said no.  He came up to me Wednesday night and said, “My coach was upset that you didn’t come speak.”  I told him, “He’ll get over it.” Find me a youth ministry that is thriving spiritually I will show you a youth minister who spends time with his family. Don’t forget to love your family, which is your number one priority.

#1 – Neglect your Spiritual Well-Being
Wayne Cordeiro talked about his realization that his well had rung dry: “Slowly, the unwelcome symptoms began to surface.  Ministry became more arduous.  My daily tasks seemed unending, and e-mails began to stack up.  People I deeply cared about became problems to be avoided, and deliberating about new vision no longer stirred my soul.  Although I never doubted my calling and gifting, what began as a joy that filled me now became a load that drained me.”[11]  People often ask what I do as a youth minister because they are surprised that a church would waste money to pay someone to do this full-time.  I tell them that the first part of my day is to read Scripture, pray, meditate and journal.  If I miss out on that regiment than my well of offering runs dry. The nature of our jobs is contingent on the depth of our spiritual souls.  I am convinced that most of my issues of professionalism is directly proportionate to the amount of time I have spent with God.
We need to block out huge amounts of time that are non-negotiable.  That means you engage yourself spiritually with no distractions.  I had an elder who called me a few weeks ago during my devotional time.  He said, “Why didn’t you answer the phone?”  I told him, “Because I was doing something more important.”  I told him and he was cool with it because it is a non-negotiable.  The phone calls, text messages, emails will all be there when you get back.  We have gotten to the point where we think we have to answer a phone call or a text message immediately. People at Main Street know I rarely answer my phone because I am usually in the middle of something.  But I will always call them back if they leave a message.

Psalm 42:1-2, “As a deer pants for flowing streams, so pants my soul for you, O God.  My soul thirsts for God, for the living God.  When shall I come and appear before God?”
Listen to this quote that will change you, “Young people need youth workers who have God—rather than youth ministry—first and foremost in view.”[12]
This lesson went in a direction that I did not intend as I thought I would talk more about office hours, time management, resources and practical ideas. However, I the more I studied for that the more I felt drawn to talk about the spiritual components of professionalism and how they directly influence everything else. I can’t express enough how important it is for a minister to understand himself or herself emotionally in order to lead others for the cause of Christ.  The older I get the more I am drawn towards systems theory and emotional processes. I will leave you with a quote from Henri Nouwen who talked about ministry and leadership in all of its brokenness:  “We do not know where we will be two, ten or twenty years from now.  What we can know, however, is that man suffers and that a sharing of suffering can make us move forward.  The minister is called to make this forward thrust credible to his many guests, so that they do not stay but have a growing desire to move on, in the conviction that the full liberation of man and his world is still to come.”[13] 

[1] Peter Scazzero, Emotionally Healthy Churches (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2010): 20.
[2] Mark Devries, Sustainable Youth Ministry (Downers Grove: InterVarsity, 2008): 128.
[3] Andy Stanley, The Next Generation Leader (Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 2003): 110.
[4] DeVries, Sustainable Youth Ministry, 113.
[5] Timothy Keller, Counterfeit Gods (New York: Dutton, 2009): xvii-xviii.  In his notes section Keller defines what he calls “Religious idols.”  He writes that religious idols is, “Moralism and legalism; idolatry of success and gifts; religion as a pretext for abuse of power” (204).
[6] DeVries, Sustainable Youth Ministry, 116-17.
[7] Jim Collins, Good to Great (New York: HarperCollins, 2001): 85.  Collins is quoting Admiral Jim Stockdale who used this principle in confronting the brutal facts when he was imprisoned in Vietnam.
[8] DeVries, Sustainable Youth Ministry, 114-23.
[9] Andy Stanley, Visioneering (Colorado Springs, CO: Multnomah, 1999): 8
[10] Adam McLane, “Helping our kids love church, again,” Adam McLane Blog, entry posted June 3, 2011, (accessed September 23, 2011).
[11] Wayne Cordeiro, Leading on Empty (Minneapolis, MN: BethanyHouse, 2009): 22.
[12] Mike King, Presence-Centered Youth Ministry (Downers Grove: InterVarsity, 2006): 62.
[13] Henri Nouwen, The Wounded Healer (New York: Image, 1979): 100.

Back to School – Part 1 – Faith

Above is the part 1 in a five part series I am doing on 5 different topics.  I think you might benefit from this.  Enjoy.

I will not be posting for a few days but plan on returning to the Christmas series on Monday.  I have added three sermons and a world religions study on the “Sermons and Class Material” page.

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New Sermon on Mary

November 29, 2009 — Leave a comment

Check out my new sermon on Mary, the Mother of Jesus.  It is a different slant than what you are probably used to!  Check ito ut.

I preached a sermon this morning starting a series called “Obscure Characters”.  It is about Philemon and Onesimus.  Read and enjoy…or read and say, “This is junk!”  It doesn’t matter to me! 

Obscure Characters 1 – Philemon and Onesimus (Part 1)

Obscure Characters 2 – Philemon and Onesimus (Part 2)